Most people will encounter others whose behaviour they find difficult.
Warning signals alert you that you may have problems in coping with these difficult characters as a result of previous unpleasant or unsociable behaviour.
But be careful!
We all make generalisations as a way of drawing conclusions based on limited experience. We make generalisations about people we say of people ‘oh he’s always late ‘ or ‘she never contributes to a meeting’, which may or may not be true in reality.
Putting people into categories “us” and “them” helped humans develop tribes, clans, and social structures.. “Us” and “them” thinking still continues.
We tend to like people who are similar to us while avoiding people who are different. In many ways, this is understandable. It’s often comfortable to be among people who are like us, and identifying similar traits can provide a sense of belonging. But when we avoid others who are different, we tend not to learn about them. And when we don’t really know what people are like, it’s easy to make guesses, fill in the blanks, and make generalisations about “them” based on very limited knowledge. In short, we make judgments about others based on limited information and before we know the full story.
By separating and isolating the tiny aspect of behaviour from the person manifesting them, you are minimising the issue and will be able to cope with the behaviour while at the same time being supportive to the person in question.
Here is something you will find useful – Take a look at our training course: Managing Difficult Behaviours and Situations